Simone de Beauvoir, Judith Butler, Shulamith Firestone–each one planted the same idea: Womanhood is a trap. Marriage is oppression. Motherhood is a burden. Femininity is a prison.
So women were encouraged to trade loyalty for independence, modesty for exposure, family for career, virtue for validation, and covenant for personal autonomy. If God created woman with purpose, feminism declared war on that purpose. And the West applauded while the foundation cracked.
A Culture Full of People Who Played the Game and Lost
Walk through any city today and you’ll see the fallout. This is not progress. It is a relational famine. We didn’t “grow beyond” marriage. We abandoned it.
And the loneliness stings worst during the very season meant for warmth and covenant.
- You can’t replace a home with an apartment.
- You can’t replace a husband with a salary.
- You can’t replace children with career milestones.
- You can’t replace covenant with personal freedom.
You cannot despise the home and then cry about being lonely inside it.
- The Boss-Babe Mirage
- The culture sold a dream: “Be strong. Be ambitious. Be independent. Men will still come.”
But here’s what actually happened:
The traits that make a woman effective in the boardroom–dominance, competition, assertiveness–are the very traits that repel the men she desires.
Not because men are intimidated, but because men are exhausted. They fight the world all day. They refuse to come home and fight their spouse all night.
So these women aren’t “too much” for men. They’re mismatched for marriage. They bought the feminist lie, built a life around it, and now sit surrounded by the trophies of a victory that cost them the one thing they cannot manufacture later–a family.
Feminism didn’t empower them. It exiled them from the very blessings they were created to enjoy.
Holiday Loneliness Has a Spiritual Origin
This ache intensifies in December because God designed marriage and family to shield the human heart from isolation. Scripture says, “It is not good that the man should be alone” (Genesis 2:18) It is not good for the woman either. It is not good for the home. It is not good for the culture.
Marriage was God’s answer to loneliness before the fall. Feminism inverted that truth and promised freedom. But freedom without covenant leads to emptiness. No office celebration can match the warmth of a family table. No salary bonus can replace the sound of children running through the house. No empowerment slogan can drown out the pain of a life lived alone.
Men Aren’t Intimidated–They’re Walking Away
Western women were told they could postpone marriage indefinitely because “the right man will come.” But the right man is no longer waiting. He’s checking out. Or checking his passport.
Colombia, Thailand, Brazil, the Philippines, Ukraine–places where femininity is still honored, marriage is still sacred, and loyalty still means something. Men aren’t escaping responsibility. They’re escaping contempt.
When your culture treats men as predators, fools, or obstacles, they will go where manhood is respected and marriage is possible.
This Isn’t a Dating Problem–It’s a Discipleship Problem
The collapse of marriage is not random. It is the predictable result of rejecting the Designer.
You cannot mock masculinity and expect strong husbands.
You cannot scorn femininity and expect faithful wives.
You cannot treat marriage as optional and expect stable homes.
You cannot reject God’s order and avoid the consequences.
This crisis is not primarily political or relational. It is spiritual. And the only way back is repentance.
Men reclaiming responsibility.
Women rediscovering virtue.
Homes restored through covenant under Christ, not contract under the state.
When the home rises, the culture stabilizes. When the home collapses, everything else follows.
There Is Still a Path Back
The lawyer in her apartment isn’t hopeless. Neither is the man who has given up. Neither is the young woman scrolling through dating profiles looking for something real. Neither is the boy who has never seen a healthy family.
God’s design still works. It always has. And it will again–if we return to it.
- Return to biblical masculinity.
- Return to biblical femininity.
- Return to biblical marriage.
Share this with a daughter who’s been lied to. Share this with a son who’s losing hope. Truth saves. Silence destroys.
VIRGIL WALKER I SOLA VERITAS
